tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7757387388608137930.post7315099756783257328..comments2023-11-15T23:49:22.421-05:00Comments on The Big C and Me: A BLESSING AND A BLUNDERRennhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08617626526633867494noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7757387388608137930.post-35821807067355920562014-02-17T02:57:10.847-05:002014-02-17T02:57:10.847-05:00Nancy, I completely understand, I am waaay behind ...Nancy, I completely understand, I am waaay behind in my reading (and even farther behind in my blogging!). Thanks for stopping by to weigh in, you always cover the best topics on your blog… anyone reading this who hasn't checked out Nancy's blog, please check her out. Always lots to learn over at http://nancyspoint.com! Rennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08617626526633867494noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7757387388608137930.post-70211330508734180632014-02-12T19:03:26.600-05:002014-02-12T19:03:26.600-05:00Hi Renn, Gosh, I'm a slow one aren't I? I ...Hi Renn, Gosh, I'm a slow one aren't I? I am finally making my way to this post. I wrote about the "double-Kellering" (not my term by the way) effect too. There are so many issues the Kellers could have talked about when opening up dialogue about tweeting during illness, but alas, they chose the low road. Or something like that. Great insights as always. Nancy's Pointhttp://www.nancyspoint.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7757387388608137930.post-88974793592515687222014-01-19T13:39:37.339-05:002014-01-19T13:39:37.339-05:00Precisely, Alli! That's why in the end, Emma&#...Precisely, Alli! That's why in the end, Emma's faux pas (which I also feel was based in fear) will work in the overall favor of "awareness" for Stage IV (and more self-awareness for Emma). xoxoRennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08617626526633867494noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7757387388608137930.post-39669415021696928042014-01-19T13:36:04.366-05:002014-01-19T13:36:04.366-05:00Agree, Dee!Agree, Dee!Rennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08617626526633867494noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7757387388608137930.post-45628678467551569322014-01-19T02:00:58.951-05:002014-01-19T02:00:58.951-05:00There has been a considerable amount of dialogue o...There has been a considerable amount of dialogue opened due to the posting of the articles. there have been a lot of comments made the majority negative but I am trying to be a little more conciliatory in my approach. Yes what she wrote was really inappropriate in so many ways. yet she herself has gone through Breast Cancer and I suspect under that cold facade is a very scared lady that is probably more terrified of "ending up" in a hospice or under a lot of medical care at some point when no answer because as we know you can go from a 0 to a stage 4 without barely sneezing in some cases. Then we have a stodgy husband stiff upper lip and all who may feel all the added treatment is frivilous not needed and "Take it like a man" attitude. I'd be scared of that!! He demonstrated in his article relating to his father's death. I am going to try and stay objective as much as I disagreed with her writing that underneath is some one who is very afraid and she was addicted to Lisa's twits because she wants or needs to know the final outcome....love Alli....XXAK13https://www.blogger.com/profile/16473189356965909993noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7757387388608137930.post-3571043373484117052014-01-16T23:35:49.202-05:002014-01-16T23:35:49.202-05:00Wow...more than a blunder IMO. Then again, I have ...Wow...more than a blunder IMO. Then again, I have to believe that Mr. Keller would likely have different opinions if it were his own mortality he was staring in the face. <br /><br />~D. Deehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15952356881592536974noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7757387388608137930.post-13618953826941704342014-01-16T18:36:00.021-05:002014-01-16T18:36:00.021-05:00If all this "Kellergate" backlash can he...If all this "Kellergate" backlash can help dilute the pink Kool aid, it was not for naught. (Easy for me to say; Lisa Adams holdsthat final opinion.)<br /><br />Thanks for stopping by. I follow your blog and I read your post about the Kellers. Please, please, please keep on being curmudgeonly! ;-)Rennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08617626526633867494noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7757387388608137930.post-10719747455311251352014-01-16T18:26:42.860-05:002014-01-16T18:26:42.860-05:00Karen,
I hope Lisa can feel the ocean of good wil...Karen,<br /><br />I hope Lisa can feel the ocean of good will coming from the BC community and I hope it WAY overshadows the negativity brought upon her by the Kellers.<br /><br />You're probably right, an apology wouldn't do much good, thought I would still encourage them to offer one to Lisa and her family. And as I said above, I SO agree with you that the upside of this whole loud mess is more awareness and activism for Stage IV mets.<br /><br />But Karen you really pin-pointed what I think is behind the lack of awareness on Emma's part: She is lacking compassion for her own self. So in that regard, I hope Emma can forgive herself for getting cancer in the first place (we have no control), and allow herself to feel her fear. 'cause we all fear the fear when the Big C strikes.<br /><br />Thank you for your terrific insight, Karen. I hope you are doing well with your treatments.Rennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08617626526633867494noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7757387388608137930.post-4897476578796135762014-01-16T18:20:15.781-05:002014-01-16T18:20:15.781-05:00Catherine, as I said above, I really want to take ...Catherine, as I said above, I really want to take the high road on this, because I don't think Emma has an axe to grind, I really think she is simply unaware of some of the things she is feeling and writing about. It should have been something that she wrote for her blog and stayed there.<br /><br />And I really, really think it has shed some much-needed attention on mets. The more we all talk about it, the better!Rennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08617626526633867494noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7757387388608137930.post-15103027850971912762014-01-16T18:16:27.677-05:002014-01-16T18:16:27.677-05:00Marie, I started to reply to your post and as wrot...Marie, I started to reply to your post and as wrote my 3rd paragraph, I realized my comment to you should just become a new blog post. (That happens to me a lot! I start replying to someone's blog post and realize I have way too much to say, so rather than hijack their post, I blog about whatever it is here.) Thanks for the inspiration!<br /><br />When so much is written about a particular topic, sometimes it's hard to find the unique spin. This one was easy. (thanks to you).<br />xoRennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08617626526633867494noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7757387388608137930.post-5145398107732792832014-01-16T18:13:24.446-05:002014-01-16T18:13:24.446-05:00Victoria, you make a good point about Emma's p...Victoria, you make a good point about Emma's point being muddled. It seems to have been lost in the sauce.It has the tone of an unfinished piece.<br /><br />Thank you for commenting. :-)Rennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08617626526633867494noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7757387388608137930.post-67661548811719191882014-01-16T18:10:03.376-05:002014-01-16T18:10:03.376-05:00I do hope she writes about it too, Launna! Thanks ...I do hope she writes about it too, Launna! Thanks for your thoughts.Rennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08617626526633867494noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7757387388608137930.post-56376510641063490612014-01-16T01:27:50.203-05:002014-01-16T01:27:50.203-05:00YES, I hope all of this mess does create an opport...YES, I hope all of this mess does create an opportunity. I've been restless for many months now that the status quo of (breast) cancer culture just won't change. The backlash that is going on has given me encouragement that finally, those in the non-cancer world will finally see that not all of us embrace the rah-rah, the Pink, the warrior path, or the dance my cancer away methods of doing cancer. Because in my real life world, when I say I reject Pink, everyone looks at me like I just grew another head, STILL, 3 years after I fell into Cancerland. --Cancer Curmudgeon http://anotheronewiththecancer.wordpress.com/ (Sorry, this site will not let me comment using my Wordpress URL for some reason, so posting as anon)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7757387388608137930.post-82701971475229402102014-01-15T22:35:02.054-05:002014-01-15T22:35:02.054-05:00dear Renn,
one never knows what might come out of...dear Renn,<br /><br />one never knows what might come out of a state of affairs such as kellergate. I hope our dear Lisa knows how much she is loved and admired, and that she has been a paragon of grace and generosity in all aspects of her use of social media, helping countless people by sharing her story.<br /><br /> I think you've done a marvelous job with this post and your careful analysis of what might be behind Emma and Bill Keller's blatant blunder. an apology from them just for the sake of quieting things down would mean very little. I think the best outcome would be just what is taking place right now - taking ST IV mets out of the shadows and into the light of understanding and increased activism. <br /><br /> however, I do have compassion for the Kellers, and I hope that introspection and being educated on the issues surrounding their "reporting" and "op-eding" helps them both to be more compassionate. and it would be a good thing, especially for Ms. Keller to be able to have compassion for herself. compassion, just as love, is not a quality one can extend to others if it doesn't reside within one's self, for one's self. <br /><br />much love and light .<br /><br />Karen XOXOXO tccomments2013https://www.blogger.com/profile/00446394638074551345noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7757387388608137930.post-26902473168357361272014-01-15T20:19:11.378-05:002014-01-15T20:19:11.378-05:00You are gracious here, Renn. And you are right, th...You are gracious here, Renn. And you are right, this has opened the conversation even further. I'm just sorry it had to be at Lisa's expense. But moving forward, I think it will be an opportunity for her story to impact even more. ~CatherineFacing Cancer Togetherhttp://www.facingcancer.canoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7757387388608137930.post-34803904788357363002014-01-15T19:02:53.970-05:002014-01-15T19:02:53.970-05:00Renn, great to see you blogging again - nothing li...Renn, great to see you blogging again - nothing like a controversy that stirs passionate feelings and gets us itching to write again. There has been so much comment on Kellergate, and among it all, yours has something new to say - a blessing and a blunder indeed.Mariehttp://beyondbreastcancer.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7757387388608137930.post-26325989120970830412014-01-15T11:32:41.089-05:002014-01-15T11:32:41.089-05:00What is sad is that there are some good questions ...What is sad is that there are some good questions in her article. But they are lost because the tone is so critical. Reading it I find it hard to pin down what exactly her point was. It's almost as if she wasn't sure what she wanted to write and didn't think through what she wanted to say. So she just threw it out there. It shows. The result is kind off the cuff and not terribly thoughtful.<br /> <br />This was one to set aside and re-read before publishing. Too bad that the editor didn't catch it. <br /><br />(Oh and I just love this line, "None of us get out off this ferris wheel of life alive.")Victoria FERAUGEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16319699673885400472noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7757387388608137930.post-68362325646511346432014-01-15T05:31:13.506-05:002014-01-15T05:31:13.506-05:00I think it is sad when other people judge others i...I think it is sad when other people judge others in how they deal with challenges, atrocities... who are we to judge another... Lisa is dealing with this in her own way, I pray the pain can be controlled by medication. I won't judge Emma or her husband as they look they like they are dealing with there own challenges but I am like you Renn... I hope one day Emma will write about this apologize if only for herself... Launna https://www.blogger.com/profile/09447311902825477772noreply@blogger.com