Monday, February 6, 2012


When I started blogging about breast cancer 10 months ago, the world wide web opened up and extended her loving arms around me. I came in contact with (and was embraced by) a great many people fighting this disease — all writing about it with humor, with bravado, with insight. I knew, statistically speaking, that some of these lovely bloggers that I "follow" would one day stop blogging.

Not because they had writers block (though that certainly happens); and not because there was a dearth of things to blog about (the Komen controversy alone could fuel us the rest of our days). Nope. I knew they would stop blogging because they would pass away.

This morning, I read that Rachel from The Cancer Culture Chronicles died at the age of 41 from metastatic breast cancer. She had a tenacious wit and a marvelous sense of humor. She wrote a guest blog for Breast Cancer Action in December; her last blog post was just a couple of short weeks ago.

And now she's gone. You can read the amazing story of her life here.

I created a "We'll Never Forget" section on my blog. It wasn't my idea. I'd seen it done by other bloggers. I just never wanted to have to do it. But I have one now. It's a place our fallen angels can now rest in the blogosphere.

Rachel was not the first to fall silent.

Cheryl, of Indigo Dreaming blogging fame, passed away in mid-January. Cheryl lived in Australia and battled secondary breast cancer and was also a very brave and upbeat gal; you can read about her story here and also here. (Thanks, Alli and Julie.)

But the first to die, for me, was Lynn — age 50, who passed from metastatic breast cancer on December 29, 2011. Lynn's husband was the blogger in the family, and he wrote (and continues to write) with great heart and compassion about his experience as caregiver of a BC patient. He is now a husband without a wife; a father of two children who are now without a mother. You can find Lynn's story (and that of her husband and family) here.

I wish my list didn't exist. A virtual graveyard is not what I had in mind when I stepped into the design section of Blogger. But it is a brutal reality of breast cancer.

So what can we do about it? Stay educated about cancer. Live a clean life. Donate time (or funds) to organizations that you have vetted and are confident will make the most of your donation.

And keep laughing. Find the humor in life. That's something Lynn and Rachel did in spades.

Rest in peace, pretty ladies.


  1. You are right about the brutal reality of this disease. A graveyard list shouldn't need to exist. I wish we had a cure for this nasty disease that continues to claim people's lives.

  2. Beth, I hate even calling it a graveyard but that is what it is. Gotta call a spade a spade. The reality of BC must not be hidden. xoxo

  3. I so agree with both of you, Beth & Renn, and yet I also love the idea of adding this section to our blogs. It's a poignant and apt thing to do. I'd like to do it. And I will. And yet, I'd have to go back and add so many women to, from the last three years, and I don't think I have the heart for it just yet...

    I feel like my heart has been trampled into lead today.

    xoxo, Kathi

  4. Renn, I lost my first angel in mid-January and it was shocking. Her comments just stopped and we all wondered. . . where is she? I lit candles and cried and for the first time understood that not everyone comes through this alive. It broke my heart. . .it still does. It is scary and awful. Thank you for giving them a place of honor. Best, Lindsey

  5. Lindsey, that's the takeaway... not everyone comes through this alive. Sobering to say the least. I'm sorry to hear about your friend. ;-( Thanks for stopping by.


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